YOU ARE THE AUTHOR OF YOUR OWN LIFE

Sometimes we come across people who inspire us in some way. They face loads of hardships in their lives and still they have that spirit that zest for life. Even when they face failures they don’t give up. What makes them different?

Existential and humanistic psychologists emphasize individual existence, freedom and choice.  We define our own meaning in life, and try to make rational decisions despite existing in an irrational universe. It is said that no matter what hardship one faces, one will achieve what he wants if he has the will to fight.

We have the freedom to shape and reshape our own life and identity. Our personality is a continuous process of growth and change. We do not possess a fix self or character or identity. We are always interacting with our environment, taking information, changing, growing, adapting etc. Our life is like a flowing river. Although we have an identity but like the river it is never same from one moment to the next or one place to the next. Our nature is influenced by where we have been, where we going, where we are now and what happened at any time in past or present.

Humanistic psychologists believe that if early childhood events are still influencing you it is because you, as the author of your own fate, are still allowing (often unconsciously) them to do so.  If your bitter experiences are creating a hindrance in your growth, it is because you as an author of your own life are allowing it to control you in a way. Your life and personality are built through experience and we maintain it through choices.

We create our own reality and destiny. Subjectivity, fantasy and intuition are regarded as sources of growth and creativity. So don’t wait until the situation is perfect or until other people agree with you. Don’t wait until your fears vanish or your skill is good. You can achieve anything you want if you are determined to achieve it. You are the author of your own destiny!!!!

SPRING CLEAN YOUR LIFE

                 DECLUTTERING CAN BE THERAPEUTIC

Have you ever wondered how energised and alive spring cleaning can make you feel. Letting things go that were occupying space not only your cupboard but your mind as well. It is both therapeutic and purifying at the same time. A cluttered home spreads negativity around us and clutter free home is a happy home. Decluttering is not mere cleaning but is the beginning of change and reorganization in our lives.

Our possessions affect our emotions, they dictate us in a way. Those little unwanted items in our cupboards control us and anchor us to our past. Decluttering our homes can help us to move on from – past relationships, old jobs, ideas that did not work. Sometimes it’s an opportunity to reconsider old forgotten things, hobbies, plans etc.  

Decluttering can be challenging and sometimes we actually end up without the real clean up. Thinking- That dress is so cute.... awww dat was a gift from my father...... I only bought it last summer.... this is so expensive....I like this color ...... I shoudn’t be throwing this away....

But “Be Ruthless” is what Milly Johnson’s “A Spring Affair” teaches us about decluttering. A spring affair is a story about Lou a woman who started clearing up her home and then moved on to clearing out her life. It emphasises the importance of decluttering and how therapeutic it can be. While by reorganizing and redefining your house you actually clear out your mind as well as your life.

Anything you own should be life-enhancing in some way. It should make you feel good and spread positivity round you. It should define you make you feel happy and not drain away your energies.There is nothing wrong with a little bit of sentimentality but holding on to everything can sometimes hold us back from moving ahead and growing in life. Ask yourself, “have I used it in the last six months and will I use it in future?” If the answer is no then throw it away without any second glance.

Start small where there's little attachment. It's easier to get rid of old newspapers and socks than an inherited ornament or a wedding dress. Be systematic and patient. Don't expect to be clutter-free overnight. Listen to your gut and be honest with yourself. As the saying goes 'If in doubt, throw it out'.

Breda, the author of Declutter Therapy says decluttering is a therapeutic process that offers many holistic and practical benefits, it helps us to cut ties with the past, accept the present and create space for the future -- physically, mentally and emotionally.

Our homes are often filled with very useful things. You can lessen any guilt of throwing away your valuables by donating to charity or recycle bins or even putting some garage sale. You can't change the fact that you've spent the money but it's healthy to let someone else enjoy these items. Someone else may need it more than you, will make you feel better. This whole process of getting unwanted things out of your life and making space for future is therapeutic.

Clear your house and clear your mind. Don’t let your life’s clutter dictate you. Throw it away and take back the control. Happy Spring Cleaning J